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The first half of life is for learning. The second half of life is for living.

The New Mid is a frank, funny look at women in mid-life and their day-to day-struggles and successes, as well as the big stuff - questions about meaning, fulfillment and happiness. It’s a place where women in their 40’s and up are breaking societal boundaries and expectations, while still dealing with real life issues such as caring for aging parents or restarting their careers.  You’ll get real talk with nothing held back about the topics you care about, with experts weighing in on health, sex, finances, relationships and everything in between.

Jun 21, 2020

Have you ever gotten home from a vacation and two days later felt you needed another one? In today's episode I speak with Melody Miles, formerly an international expert
at the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, who helped launch the campaign to eradicate malaria. In a short period of time she lost her mother and her marriage and went from a panic attack in her office to the emergency room. She realized all the preconceived notions of "success" were causing her to be stressed, exhausted, and unhappy so she quit her dream job, sold her belongings, and traveled solo around the world. When she returned it became very apparent that many women felt like her. That's when Melody founded the  company "Soulcation." It's a method that helps women create space and redesign daily life, so that their souls can sustain all the unknown pressures of everyday living.

Show Notes: 

  • To start designing a life to love, you need to  start practicing new ways of living.
  • We are all looking for permission that really we can give ourselves.
  • We need to value ourselves enough to reset our lives and reset our priorities that our needs and desires are equal as everyone else.
  • Clean Anger - tells us that we have a need or desire or truth that isn't met that we haven't told ourselves or someone else. And that need is valid. 
  • Busyness - is a status symbol and sacrifice is a status symbol.
  • The root of anger can be self abandonment which means saying "Yes" when really we meant "No." Staying silent when we wanted to speak up.
  • Three Main Steps: 1- Create Space: soul care/self-care plan morning & evening routine. 2- Turn towards your discomfort and pain. 3- Dropping the Ball - let go of the balls you no longer need to carry.
  • Play is a very important healer.
  • Trust what you feel is good.
  • Connect with your body enough to trust the metrics of ease rather than feeling you have to force your way past the struggle and what's hard in life.
  • Don't overthink.
  • Do the next right thing.