May 31, 2020
One person gets divorced every 36 seconds. Divorce is not a fun.
There is a lot of pain and shame that go with it. In today's
episode I speak with divorce attorney Renee Bauer on how to
navigate through divorce proceedings so you can set yourself up
with the tools you'll need to walk away Happy Even After you get
divorced.
Show Notes:
- How do you know when it's tie to get divorced?
- How do you tell your children?
- What are the first steps you need to take before you file papers to get divorced?
- There are many different avenues to take in getting a divorce, 1) traditional litigation, 2) Mediation and 3) Collaboration.
- You need to take responsibility and start advocating for yourself.
- Here are the 7 steps you need to take:
- 1- Educate and Research: Find out what type of divorce you want.
- 2- Interview at least 2-3 lawyers
- 3- Build Your Team: therapist/coach, accountant, and financial advisor. If you can't afford to hire all of these people here are the areas you need to make sure you're covered in: Mental Health (have someone you can speak with that is not friends/family) Accountant (need to know your assets and how much money you have) Financial Advisor (you need to think about your retirement, budget and savings)
- 4- Communicate with your attorney during the divorce.
- 5- Write down your goals. It's helpful before you start the process to know what your main goals are.
- 6- After the divorce, find time to reacquaint with yourself. Dedicate time for self-care and think about what you want.
- 7- Let go of the negativity and use it as an opportunity to learn something new.
- Realize that divorce is going to change your Lifestyle.
- It's about both of you coming to an agreement that is not perfect, and you probably both have it a little bit.
- One of the biggest problems that people get stuck on is who gets the house. That might not be the best thing for either party with many financial obligations that come with the house.
- Divorce is hard. Allow yourself time to grieve and to sit in the mud.
Ms. Renee Bauer is an award-winning divorce attorney, published author, and founder of the family law firm, Bauer Law Group.
With almost two decades of experience representing countless high net-worth clients, she is committed to empowering all women to redefine their sense of peace and purpose in their new life. She is certified as a Guardian Ad Litem, Attorney for the Minor Child, and Collaborative Attorney. Renee is also a certified Mediator receiving her training from mediation pioneer, Forrest “Woody” Mosten, of Beverly Hills.
Renee’s insights are sought after by local and regional media
outlets, podcasts, and conferences where she speaks on
co-parenting, blended family dynamics, relationships, and the art
of reinvention. Having walked this path herself, Renee knows what
it feels like to face uncertainty, shame, and the fear of losing
life as she knew it. As an accomplished litigator, she boldly
educates and inspires women to reclaim their right to happiness
through her online course, the d∙course and podcast,
Happy Even After™.
You can contact her at:
@msreneebauer on Instagram or www.facebook.com/msreneebauer